By Patrick L Okeyo
10/28/07
Traditions and cultures in Africa make a man to go out and search for a would be wife. The program is sensitive, enquiries are made about the would be wife and her family background is dug as if it is cow dug.
Most communities prefer a word of advise and direction from relatives and extended relatives for this wife hunting program.
The search program ends when a man finally pays dowry and married. The sweet part of this oration is that there is a boundary of respect and the extend of it and chores of each and responsibilities as laid by tradition. This is between a man and woman.
The tradition is a practice that was inherited from forefathers and will be passed over to the future generation. Seemingly, African tradition will get diminished as future generations will tend to acquire foreign cultures which by education are regarded as general.
Fortunately or unfortunately the man is the head of all ministries in a household. African tradition is expansive and expensive to abandon, but is seen as one sided. They say Not all houses are clean.
In America being a left hand drive, women are traditionally empowered to head families and are responsible for financial chores. Africa is blamed for sidelining women, but now it is prioritizing equal rights between gender; equal gender provision is the order of the day now.
Well, in American tradition the economy is strong! The dollar is strong! Family life is littered in most cases especially urban areas!
American culture doesnt approve dowry! No go between marriages! The journey of marriage is permanent and forever, but several divorce attorneys are waiting!
Women in America being regarded in the household as spearheads of the entire family; America has never had in mind of producing a female president. It sounds like some offices traditionally were regarded for men, but now may be Hillary Clinton is being considered or Barack Obama will take presidency.
Believe it that America has truly not fully co-operated to give equal provisions between gender. Has America ever had a female Chief Of General Staff? Never!
In Africa the traditional court of elders has minimal to none cases of divorce, the Judiciary has numbered cases of divorce and in religious section it is extremely non existence to one. The American tradition has the highest number of divorces even within Africans themselves because they have been assimilated and followed the flow of the wind as the flag dictates.
Divorce in America is not a worry! It is a routine and a business. It is just $399.00 for a divorce the billboards say. If the billboards are paid to say so dont you think the American tradition is unlike Africa? Are there billboards in any African City of this kind?
Ask yourself why?
When divorce is settled in America there comes child support, child custody, alimony, shared custody, restraining order and dividing investment if any. The unique cultural bond in Africa prevents and unifies the divorced and prevents criminal occurrences in marriage.
Americans are just cheating you that they have equality. The larger provisions of identifying a woman with her responsibilities are greater in America than any continent that is more explanatory which is why America feels that she provides equal treatment. Yes, women in America are far much a head as compared to other countries where a lot has to be invested to do more on female acknowledgement.