By Vicky WandawaHe could not garner the strength to tell her why he broke up with her, but he remorsefully says: “I hope one day she realises it. But it will not be me to let her know. We are still friends, though.”Salim (not real name) says he was once forced to end a relationship with a girl after two weeks because she had smelly feet.“Every time she came to my house, she left her shoes at the door, I guess because at my doorstep was always a pair or more of my sandals, she saw it fair not to enter with her shoes on. Her feet smelt like clothes that had been left damp and folded away for days.”
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Im thrilled that my fellow Kisii men and women are democratic when it comes to elections. Tribalism is a disease which Kenya needs to eradicate the soonest. The existence of tribal blocks cultivates tribal gangs. Time is here now when gangs are using this post election disgrace to graze on peoples properties. The desperate!
Im not astonished that Luos and company, and Kikuyus and company voted as a block. We built these houses to live and make life in them.
Then I can proudly approach you by informing you that even guard dogs go for an enemy as a block.
Yes, Kisiis are democratic, but not very democratic; In Iowa, USA there developed a disagreement of a political choice in Kenya. The man was for ODM and the Kikuyu lady was for PNU. There was nothing like voting as a block or supporting one as a family. The politics of today with the American democracy let these two go their way.
Go with your ODM wewe Mkisii (You Kisii); go with PNU wewe Mkikuyu (You Kikuyu). There was no pulling together as a block. This relationship came to a total dead end. The man was told to leave.
In Kisii, Kenya, another man did the same to a Kikuyu lady. Politics is making families not to vote as a block in elections yet they share things in the family. The woman was told to leave.
The Kikuyu resentment was brought into marital relationship; is it true that couples of intertribal marriages love each other? What kind of love is it when it is defined by politics during elections? The couple disagreed and the children further disagreed. Children voted their candidate, the wife voted for her candidate and the husband voted for his candidate.
Immigrants from other provinces and tribes have that liberty too, they can vote for whomever they wish. Love your neighbor As Yourself the Bible says. God doesnt encourage destruction of property, elimination of life and causing chaos. That doesnt mean that Kibaki doesnt yield to a re-run. The medicine for Kenya right at this moment is a re-run. As a man, woman and children under one roof have different political views to make and different candidates to vote for, that is constitutionally the same for any tribe wherever they are in Kenya. They shouldnt be beaten, killed and manhandled.
The resentment to Kikuyu tribe was created by Kenyatta when he gave land to his Kikuyu tribesmen and discriminated the natives who he should have given that land back to. The current crisis in Rift valley is not political but historical
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No international observers; No party agents, ECK chairman Samuel Kivuitu has changed stories several times making him the first human TV to switch from one station to the other within his mind. Sounds like propaganda. Next time Kivuitu is going to tell you that his wife conceived a camel calf and he expects you to believe him. Trust me!
The castrated bull is the only one in the village; the owner has borrowed a strong bull from another village during mating season. Kibaki wants you to believe that a minority in parliament can form a government; Kibaki wants a one state party; Kibaki wants dictatorship, not democracy that elected him; Kibaki wants a coalition government even when a castrated bull cannot impregnate a cow to make a coalition of cows.
Cows for milk, cows for meat and cows for skin!
In our boma we drink milk, blood and eat raw meat. Dont forget we fight a lion with a sword and kill it with our bare hands when game wardens use AK- 47s. Green pastures are the constitution of my flock.
Dialogue is avenue A andpeace is avenue B. Even the MPs who were elected democratically in PNU and other parties instead of denouncing this hypocrisy they are quiet. Some PNU MPs have been appointed to the cabinet they dont deserve and they didnt dream about.
The famous tree that used to be tall is the famous tree that is withering. Yet those MPs want to be recognized as credible politicians both local and international.
No one man is stronger than two strong men. Change is inevitable! When diplomacy is exhausted Kenyans must liberate their country from bad leadership by any means. No military is stronger than people; no government is stronger than the people; no president is stronger than the law he was elected to enforce. The law is clear the majority rules and the minority becomes opposition.
The flag flows as by the direction of the wind; Kibakis ill advisers will face serious consequences nationally and internationally. We shall file for ICC (International Criminal court), we shall file for travel ban of all the cabinet and their senior associates including Kibaki, we shall file for assets to be frozen abroad and we ask ICC to investigate ECK. We are determined; these people must respect the will of the people not corrupt cohorts who are behind them.
One stick cannot kill two birds neither will it kill a bird and a chameleon. Kibaki cannot kill democracy and at the same time be an illegal Chief of the Armed Forces. Never! Both must stop! Kenyans must defend their democracy by all means.
Kenyans are determined to take State House either peacefully as mediation has tried or by steeping down. The ballot is greater than selfish ambition! Kibaki must be prosecuted for atrocities and genocide he caused to Kenyans. Kibaki needs to stop calling Museveni to mediate when AU, EU and the US are doing it. Museveni is being asked to invade Kenya. The international community must warn Museveni.
No gun is bigger than man. God made man and man made gun.
The smell in the house! The odor from the sewage; there is no air freshener and what complicates the matter is that ventilation is minimal. A castrated bull will never impregnate a cow and will never make a coalition of cows.
Cowards have taken the orchard! The precious orchard! No farming as the society of farmers is under siege from elephants which crossed from a neighboring country destroying farms. Some farmers have retreated home to get bows and arrows along with spears. The common enemy is in the farm. Children will never eat again, never go to school if these elephants are around and there is fear within. The vigilante group is watching keenly!
Kenya is ending the year on a very sad note. This tragic state of affairs has been caused by a small clique of power hungry individuals determined to hijack and strangle the countrys democratic process through poll rigging and manipulation of presidential vote tallying. They will not succeed.
Already, hundreds of Kenyans have dearly paid the ultimate price, resisting the diabolical plans hatched in the dark recesses of the minds of a few who mistakenly believe they can ride roughshod over the expressed will of the people of Kenya. They will not win.
Kenyans of various political persuasions around the World are standing firm with suffering compatriots back home. Uniting us is the democratic impulse and the burning desire to see Kenya back on the rails of democracy. This must happen now.
We reiterate that ultimately this is a Kenyan affair, but we also recognize the important role of the international community to assist us to get back to normal, which means respecting the political verdict of the majority of Kenyans in the just concluded polls. This must be loudly and fervently expressed.
To date we have been disappointed with the manner in which some actors on the international scene have responded to this rape of democracy in our country. Some have even suggested that Kenyans accept the blatantly fraudulent results and move on with their lives. Many have been lukewarm in their criticism of the perpetrators of this fraud. This is a wrong and counterproductive approach.
We are calling for strong words from the international community followed by appropriate action mainly pressuring President Mwai Kibaki to immediately step down and let democracy prevail. There is need for fresh Presidential elections immediately. Threats of sanctions against the political Neanderthals currently at the helm of a murderous outfit masquerading as the government of Kenya are necessary too. Murder, robbery, and theft must not be rewarded. This is the international law.
We call upon the international community to come to the aid of the people of Kenya at this hour of need. Food and water is already running low in many areas in the country. Our people are facing the specter of starvation abetted by an illegal authority that is shooting at them at will. They need urgent help.
We condemn this murder of democracy and our people unreservedly. We call upon the Kenyan police to exercise utmost restraint and stop the indiscriminate shooting of our people. We ask all Kenyans of conscience to stand up and be counted. We may be called upon to organize ways to get assistance to poor suffering compatriots. Every Kenyan community out here must begin organizing and preparing for such an eventuality. We shall overcome. We shall prevail. We have no other choice.
Since the beginning of the end of 2007 general elections, I’ve been trying to put something down in writing but my hand kept failing me. The announcement of Mzee Kibaki as president of Kenya by Mr. Kivuitu has left many a people hopeless and confused just like me. I’m not saying this because Kibaki lost the election, but rather because he adamantly refused to take our nation at heart as a statesman. And the democratic gains that we as Kenyans had made and shown the world is completely flushed by Kivuitu’s Declaration at the International Observers watch!. We will soon start hiding our identities due to shame in our own country only because one person refused to uphold our democratic right of being led by the majority.
I have not lived long enough to see many, but the inauguration of kibaki at dusk some few minutes after Kivuitu’s declaration made me concur with my conscience – Mzee Kibaki never had Kenya at heart. I know my writing here has no consequences or even mediocre effect to the outcome, but something tells me I have to express myself anyway.
I also need to applaud and commend Raila Odinga for showing his statesmanship and telling his supporters to shun violence at all cost. Believe you me – it takes a statesman to do what Raila Odinga did, especially after being blatantly robbed of his win.
We are living at a critical time. History is being made at our watch, the types of Kibaki will always come and go, but we as a people still need to uphold our integrity as a people and shun the likes of Kibaki. Whatever the outcome of this impasse, I believe it will take both sides to begin the healing process. Animosity has been flamed both locally and in the Diaspora between Mt. Kenya tribes, (especially Kikuyu) and the rest of the Kenya tribes. Unfortunately the Kikuyus are not doing any good to deflame what seems to be their imminent survival threat. It may sound very ironical and bitter, but it will take the kikuyus to come out and proclaim the truth about this regime, especially the rigged election.
I know the majority of Kikuyus are now suffering from homelessness with many of them losing their property to hooligans simply because of one person. They all need to come out in mass and decry or if need be, beseech Kibaki to annul his inauguration for the sake of their safety, and Kenyans will embrace them. After all what do one gain by supporting an illegitimate government at the expense of his or her family and relatives?
I urge Raila Odinga to relentlessly keep talking against tribal animosity and hooliganism. Believe me the truth will always prevail. We are bitter about the blatant rigging and we are mourning the death of our young democracy ….. we may also seem to be hopeless, but sooner or later democracy will prevail. We have seen it happen in many countries. Kibaki will come and go let’s live like brothers and sisters because we are brothers and sisters. We are Kenyans.
By Richard Mageto, Delaware, USA.
The holy word of God talks more about our relationship with one another and more so about our relationship with our children. Our God wants us to live amiably with our neighbors and also to provide an enabling environment where the children can grow to full potential while feeling safe and loved. There are equally many counseling books and research articles written by authors of substance basing their arguments completely on hard and irrefutable facts and statistics. We can choose to ignore these facts at our own peril.
Honor thy father and mother, the holy Bible commands. This is one of the commands with a promise.
Christians or not, our children must in a told that honoring their parents is not an option but an
obligation that is demanded of them by God, Ephesians 6:1-4. We never outgrow our status of childhood in respect to obeying this commandment. Those who are honorable enough can admit that whatever our current age we still remain our parents children until death do us part. The only exception being that the older we become the commandment becomes more of a consultation than the literal obedience demanded of the youngsters.
The Father above was smart enough than just demanding the obedience of the children to their parents. The parents are also admonished to not only love their children but also to make sure that the children are not unnecessarily exasperated. This provides a very thin line to walk on and the balancing act between the two issues more often has become a cause of alarm and disunity than the other way round. It is thus incumbent upon the wise parents to start bending the tree while it is still young because latter attempts would produce devastating results.
Prepare the child for the rough road ahead rather than preparing the rough road ahead for the child. Many a time we are tempted to be overprotective of our children, as really any and all loving parents do, and in the process fail to recognize the fact that our children will be making it out alone for many years without us. It is therefore in order to teach and guide our children while they are young and bendable so that they can be able to independently make right choices when they are grown and away from the parents.
Verily, verily I say unto you that soon and very soon our children are going to be faced with tough
situations where they are going to make tough choiceschoices that will determine whether they will make it in life or not.
I want us for a minute recall the time we first arrived in our new homes away from home. There were a lot of things then that disagreed with our values and norms and which we had for long taken for granted.
Well, many of us had wondered even loudly as to why our African-American brothers were not doing better as much as the rest of the general population. There were (and still the situation remains) many of them in jails, in streets, and many such areas described simply as the underworld. This situation did not
just come from the blues but rather it is a consequence of years of negligence of family values
imbibed through a false sense of freedom and deviance but also accelerated by racial persecution and discrimination in almost all sectors of the nation-state. We do not have to be at that level in order for us to start making noise. To be forewarned is to be forearmed.
The single-most factor that has contributed to family chaos and anarchy across the Diaspora is single parenthood. As I said from the onset we can argues and even bury our heads in the sand but the truth will remains that we ignore these issues at our own peril. The mother brings love and warmth in the family while the father represents authority and security. These two influences must come concertedly together in a home in order to have a meaningful sway on our children. The fact is that we have chosen those shortcuts that had manifested themselves awkwardly in our African-American brothers and sisters and have even perfected their art better than them. And very soon, and indeed sooner, we are going to witness our children the streets and then we shall be wondering as where the rain started beating us.
Hey Rich, you do not understand, some would argue. And indeed I may not understand your situation but one thing is for sure and that is hasty and selfish decisions have the propensity to spiral negatively down the family tree and history will judge you accordingly. You see, let us avoid making our choices and decisions based on feelings. Many a time we say that I am not happy and so I want to separate or a divorce. We cannot afford to do this if children are involved and if we claim that we love them.
Irreconcilable differences is a legal phrase coined by divorce lawyers in order to compel the two warring parties to disintegrate into oblivion rather than resolving the issues that are tearing through their marriage.
I am not talking from space my friends. I have a family and children like any of you. But I rather do
anything than see my children grow without their mother or me. I know my children well and the fact is some of them will act up beyond repair if we go it single. Even the ones whom I think may do well
whatever the situation may indeed end up doing worse considering the fact that they seem to suggest otherwise because of the inherent two parent influence that surrounds them. As I had said in another article before, the two parent homestead we had so complacently taken for granted back home is a must then, a must now, and a must in the future if our posterity is to make any headways in this country. Of course there are exceptions but I am not here to make suggestions out of a rarity than the hard facts presented to us.
The decisions we make right now should be the foundation upon which our children will build the
future successes and destiny. I was at first opposed to my wifes suggestion that we take the boys to a
Christian school. The tuition is heartbreaking but I have come to fully agree with my wife that no amount of money can be tagged on the future of these children. I can witness today and now to you that the spiritual nourishment these children get at school combined with the Christian atmosphere prevalent in their school has impacted them positively. Back at home, even the very poor struggle to take their children to private schools because of discipline and academic excellence. We can do here too. The stakes are too big and the risks too great to ignore.
I finally want to say that our children need us more than the games, computers and the TV that we have left to attend unto them. We work for these kids and it will be useless to make lots of money, buy houses, and invest well when the parents who love them are unknowingly (by commission or omission) neglecting them. We may strive to rationalize the reality at hand but the truth is that history will judge each one of us according to what kind of family we raised rather than how much money and property we had amassed. It is all about balancing the two issues and whoever does it better wins the game. The problem is not that we have failed to achieve this result but rather that we are so engrossed with making more and more money at the expense of our children. Thanks to you all who are doing a superb job of putting the children first (both in word and in deed). They are indeed our investment, future and our security.
Some may disagree with me but that is Ok. I draw strength from those of you who silently agree with me, and more so my friends who have personally thanked me through emails, and even verbally, for the social issues that I have touched on for some time now. Examples are rife and about, and indeed it will take an ostrich of man to bury ones head in the sand and ignore the stark reality. My prayer is that we put our children first and act accordingly so that we can prepare them for the road ahead rather than preparing the road for them.
Our children will be proud of us when they learn of the many years endured in their behalf but will judge us harshly for abandoning them at the earliest crack of hardship and in search for personal fulfillment and aggrandizement.
The decision is yours but judgment remains the childrens prerogative. And history will bear witness.
By MalachiO Mogoba, Oakland, Ca
So stop making it even more stressful. And I am talking to you out there, all those relatives and friends who think they have it wrapped up during the holiday season and will be happy if I traveled and spent it with them. Not wanting to be a downer on your holiday spirit, I am just going to be as soft as I can be and as honest in that so as not to get your spirits hurt, so my only question will be, who told you that I am not enjoying myself just spending the holiday on my own in the quietness of my room?
I am not trying to be a scrooge or anything, but seriously, I know most of you and having lived around some of you for the last 10 years, I pretty much know what to expect in your houses during the holidays. I should probably remind you that pretending to be happy during the holidays does not work for me anymore. Whereas I admit that being happy for a day is more than not being happy at all, it is not worth the pain of pretending for a week or a month just because you want to get along for the sake of Christmas. Call it what you want, Christmas, as much as I love to celebrate it, will not make it better. So it is about time that you grow up and realize the days of kissing a little cut and hoping it miraculously feels better are gone. Suck it up and know that if you have chosen to live with that bastard who abuses you day and night, that is going to be your life until eternity. I am sure you will love it there and I am sure you understand the concept since you profess to be a Christian, otherwise why else would you want to celebrate Christmas; you might as well celebrate Hanukkah.
Second, the whole idea of thanksgiving sucks in my little world. Why should we wait for that one particular day to give thanks around the dinner table of the great and mighty works of God during the year? Okay, I don’t even keep track of what happened to me last week; how the hell do you expect me to remember what happened at the beginning of the year. The only reason I have been making up stories is to let you feel special. Why deny you that opportunity for one day. You don’t believe me, okay, why else am I always the last one to give thanks every thanksgiving? I simply wait for everyone’s sad story and then reformat them in my mind and retell it in a positive way so that you think that I have been blessed. I love blessings and am glad that I receive them everyday, just don’t think that making me recite them during thanksgiving dinner does make them more real. How about you, remember last year when you made up that stupid story about how great and merciful the Lord has been to you throughout the year. Okay, who are you kidding? Some of us have grown for a while and our memories never erase within a year. Didn’t you know that staying home for the last one year has created extra space in my memory cache, and I have not been deleting anything from there?
Third, do not get me wrong, I love the holiday festivities and love the surprise gifts. Why else do you I celebrate my birthday in December. Duh, you all know I was not born in December. That is just a day I picked, knowing that most of you have this generous spirit during the holiday season, so plugging in my birthday between thanksgiving and Christmas serves me right. And you didn’t think I was smart enough to pull something like that. So this year, since I have decided to take a backseat to the celebrations, I have a couple of things I would like to tell you all about my holiday. I love the little gifts that you send me in the form of car fresheners, chocolate- oh my God, I have never even eaten the ones from 2 years ago, and of course my favorite one, cologne, okay I truly appreciate them all, but since I am the receiver of such gifts, I would like to ask all you who are conceiving that idea of sending me a gift this year to please do so in cash. Whereas I don’t have a right to tell you what you can send me, I deserve the right to request such gifts in any medium of my choice. I simply know a whole lot of you and some of the activities you engage in, so I don’t want the IRS to have a gift trail to my door when they come audit you. I do not also want to remember who sent me what gift two years down the road. Friendships and family relations tend to die some time, why carry the bitter memories around my house for the rest of my life looking at those gifts that came from you. And if you are planning to send cash, please send it anonymously. I lost my 501 ) (3) status with the IRS, so sending cash or gifts this year will not be a line item for your next year’s tax itemization. So it is your benefit not to even declare that amount, so just send cash anonymously.
That brings me to another point about gifts, just as an advance warning. I know most of you have a short memory span, so I will probably remind you again next year. I am setting up my soon to be pre-wedding charity, and will like all of you to know that any gifts donated for my wedding are tax deductible. The minimum amount to qualify is $ 500.00. We can talk about returns on those gifts early next year, but just remember; only cash is acceptable. And again, it is for your benefit.
Just to remind you all that my patience quotient with my other relatives is growing smaller every year, the major reason why I am not showing up where they are this year. I know they are family, but I have never seen a bunch of lazy people like Cousin Jim’s family. Kind of makes me rethink this whole concept of family. A new year with new beginnings. I am seriously thinking of a family name change and disowning everyone that I think is lazy.
But more important for all of you to know at this point is that, the holidays are fine without family close by. You guys have not given me a good enough reason to stop by every year for the once a year celebration. Besides I am dating a Jewish girl and we are celebrating Hanukkah with her family. So I am trying to limit too much indulgence on eating. So stop the constant emails and phone calls for invitations. I already get enough of those from the collectors and for sure I don’t want to start neglecting yours too. So enjoy the holiday season.
When computer schools came all people rushed to those institutes and received financial support to finish their training. Computer demands are now saturated as a computer is not anything big today as anybody can build a website without much training at computer school. Due to development and demands in American society, nurses and medical field staff are needed in plenty. It is not hide and seek nor criminal but even a mechanic at the shop wants to be a nurse just for the sake because his peer group has joined nursing.
Who controls your life? Money! Computer! Nursing! Or is it the flow of people; or talent and interest?
We are not astonished to be told now and again that we need to stay away from harmful peer groups. The image of your friends reflects on you and your family. Criminal acts of your friends bring all friends into one common police theory investigate them all. On the other hand, others talk good of nursing influencing others to join for the sake of joining.
Actually who controls your life? Your husband, Peer, Wife, Children or you dont know?
Urgency is needed to curb the decision made for the sake of the effects of the environment, work mate destructive discussions or academic superiority complex. Decisions made should never fall with events of daily goings on, television shows, radios, newspapers, text messages, etc.
Who controls your life? Is it your text messaging buddies, radios, Pastors, teachers or the Police?
In the village, the common resident expects the academically qualified to behave well under the common euphoria of civilization from books and abandonment of the tradition and cue on foreign culture. Abandon the culture and tradition and adopt the borrowed leaf. Taking the responsibility as a nurse without interest, talent or need only to make money is a sad track.
Who controls your life? Foreign culture or traditional culture?
Unwisely, it is impractical to heap in one place as people from one nation doing nursing when other areas are open for advancement, which include real estate, accounting, medicine etc. Those doing security jobs while with college qualifications join State Police recruitment which has enough overtime.
Every Kenyan in America wants to be a nurse. Kenyans who should train Americans how to go about the marathon are now displacing Philiphinos in nursing. It will be unfair if America one day finds itself healthy without any patient in hospitals. Where will these nurses go to? Change profession?
Stop following the flow of the wind and take a concrete resonance of academic direction. If money dictates academic life of human beings then the sense of professional and profession will become tasteless.
Who controls your life? Daddy or Mummy?
Meaningfully, Kenyans and E. Africans at large need to carefully scrutinize their decision making theory of settling their academic preference on nursing, thus heaping themselves in one profession and yet there are other areas which pay way better. Somebody must be a cheat if law profession is not considered and many more. Majority have invested in properties but the query today is who will maintain these properties if people from one region are scrambling in one profession and alienating others? We know where we are coming from, where we are, but we dont know where we are going. Think wisely and decide carefully!
By Patrick L Okeyo
Traditions and cultures in Africa make a man to go out and search for a would be wife. The program is sensitive, enquiries are made about the would be wife and her family background is dug as if it is cow dug.
Most communities prefer a word of advise and direction from relatives and extended relatives for this wife hunting program.
The search program ends when a man finally pays dowry and married. The sweet part of this oration is that there is a boundary of respect and the extend of it and chores of each and responsibilities as laid by tradition. This is between a man and woman.
The tradition is a practice that was inherited from forefathers and will be passed over to the future generation. Seemingly, African tradition will get diminished as future generations will tend to acquire foreign cultures which by education are regarded as general.
Fortunately or unfortunately the man is the head of all ministries in a household. African tradition is expansive and expensive to abandon, but is seen as one sided. They say Not all houses are clean.
In America being a left hand drive, women are traditionally empowered to head families and are responsible for financial chores. Africa is blamed for sidelining women, but now it is prioritizing equal rights between gender; equal gender provision is the order of the day now.
Well, in American tradition the economy is strong! The dollar is strong! Family life is littered in most cases especially urban areas!
American culture doesnt approve dowry! No go between marriages! The journey of marriage is permanent and forever, but several divorce attorneys are waiting!
Women in America being regarded in the household as spearheads of the entire family; America has never had in mind of producing a female president. It sounds like some offices traditionally were regarded for men, but now may be Hillary Clinton is being considered or Barack Obama will take presidency.
Believe it that America has truly not fully co-operated to give equal provisions between gender. Has America ever had a female Chief Of General Staff? Never!
In Africa the traditional court of elders has minimal to none cases of divorce, the Judiciary has numbered cases of divorce and in religious section it is extremely non existence to one. The American tradition has the highest number of divorces even within Africans themselves because they have been assimilated and followed the flow of the wind as the flag dictates.
Divorce in America is not a worry! It is a routine and a business. It is just $399.00 for a divorce the billboards say. If the billboards are paid to say so dont you think the American tradition is unlike Africa? Are there billboards in any African City of this kind?
Ask yourself why?
When divorce is settled in America there comes child support, child custody, alimony, shared custody, restraining order and dividing investment if any. The unique cultural bond in Africa prevents and unifies the divorced and prevents criminal occurrences in marriage.
Americans are just cheating you that they have equality. The larger provisions of identifying a woman with her responsibilities are greater in America than any continent that is more explanatory which is why America feels that she provides equal treatment. Yes, women in America are far much a head as compared to other countries where a lot has to be invested to do more on female acknowledgement.